Tuesday, May 27, 2008

The "5 Big" Challenges in Life

Successful people do not have less challenging lives than those who do not succeed. In fact, they may go through even greater challenges. What causes the separation? Successful people respond to difficulties differently.

It’s easy to have a great attitude when things are going our way. Attitude doesn’t become the difference maker until challenges arise. Dr John C Maxwell analyzes in “The Big 5,” a list of the top challenges experienced by leaders, and the steps to develop an appropriate attitude toward each challenge.

THE BIG 5

1. Discouragement - Over the course of my life, I’ve discovered that every leader gets discouraged. Plans fail, dreams drift out of range, or goals suffer setbacks. However, not every leader responds to discouragement the same way. Attitude dictates whether a discouraged leader will give up or get up.

Dealing Effectively With Discouragement
(1) Get the Right Perspective - Seldom are circumstances as bad as they feel in the darkest moments. Try to put hard times in the proper perspective by distancing from them emotionally.
(2) See the Right People - Relationships either build us up or tear us down. Leaders surround themselves with encouragers who lend support and lift the load.
(3) Say the Right Words - Dr. Martin Lloyd Jones, says this in his excellent work, Spiritual Depression, It’s Cause and Cure: “Most of your unhappiness in life is due to the fact that you are listening to yourself rather than talking to yourself.” Thoughts stream into our minds beyond our control. Instead of succumbing to whichever thoughts happen to pop into our heads, we can purposefully fix our minds on the positive.

2. Problems - Just as every leader gets discouraged, so every leader runs into problems. When facing problems, adjusting your attitude can be a precursor to adjusting your situation. Remember: change on the outside always follows the change on the inside.

Principles for Handling Problems
(1) Define What A Problem Is - A problem is something I can do something about. If I cannot do something about a situation, it is a fact of life, not a problem.
(2) Anticipate Problems - A problem anticipated may be an opportunity, but a problem not anticipated is a simply a problem.
(3) Embrace Each Problem as a Potential Opportunity - Problems are wake-up calls for creativity. They sharpen us by testing our reasoning and drawing out our creative juices.

3. Change - Change is an unavoidable and often unwelcome part of life. Change pushes us away from comfort by refusing to let us settle. By constantly forcing us to adapt, change sparks growth in our lives.

Coming to Terms with Change
(1) Determine that Change Will Be an Ongoing Part of Life - Years ago, Alfred P. Sloan made the statement that the key to success in management does not lie in your ability to adjust to change; it lies in your ability to anticipate change. When we see change coming we can move along with it rather than being blindsided by it.
(2) Make a Commitment to Pay the Price for Change - Along the journey, a leader must make sacrifices to stay abreast of change. If change doesn’t cost you, it’s not real change.
(3) Decide What You Are Not Willing to Change - Leaders have a general openness to change, but they refuse to be swayed in their convictions such as faith, values, and family.

4. Fear - Fear has the ability to exaggerate itself and spread throughout our life. When fear grips us, we are frozen and incapable of action. Worrisome thoughts fill our mind with distractions, and we are powerless to be productive.

How to “Fix” Your Fears
(1) Discover the Foundation of Fear - Fears are more often based on feelings than facts. To control fear, search for its underlying emotion. More often than not, you’ll find fear has no rational root.
(2) Accept Fear as the Price of Progress - Whenever we venture into new territory, we are met with the fear of the unknown. We must be willing to step outside of our comfort zone and face the fear of the unfamiliar.
(3) Feed the Right Emotion, Starve the Wrong One - Many times we cannot hope to avoid the emotion of fear. Despite our best efforts to have courage, fear settles into the pit of our stomach like a rock. We may never eliminate fear, but we can refuse to let it dominate. If we act according to hope and optimism, eventually our action will transform our emotions.

5. Failure - I have seen many leaders with self-sabotaging traits stemming from an unhealthy perspective toward failure. Some leaders live with a nagging sense of impending failure. They don’t believe they are good enough to succeed, and sooner or later they fulfill their self-expectations of failure. Other leaders refuse to take risks. By sticking to safe paths, they assure themselves of failing to have significant impact. Still other leaders allow failures to derail them. They see failure as a personal indictment rather than a step in the ongoing process of their growth as a leader.

How to Profit From Failure
(1) Change Your Vocabulary - Every good leader I’ve ever met has had the amazing ability to turn a setback into a springboard for greater effectiveness. In his book, Leaders on Leadership: Interviews with Top Executives, Warren Bennis interviewed 70 of our nation’s top performers in numerous fields. None of them used the word “failure” to describe their mistakes. Instead they referred to “learning experiences,” “tuition paid,” “detours” or “opportunities for growth.”
(2) Keep a Sense of Humor - Give yourself margin to make mistakes. Laugh at your failures rather than languishing in them.
(3) Make Failure a Learning Experience - We should never walk away from failure empty-handed. Each failure comes with lessons attached, and we can learn invaluable principles from them.

Attitude, the difference maker, is the one thing that enables a leader to rise above these challenges.

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

The Difference Maker - Making Your Attitude Your Greatest Asset

Motivational speakers have famously touted the slogan, "attitude is everything." In fact we often say that “it is attitude not your aptitude that determines the altitude” While there's no doubt about the power of a positive outlook, attitude alone won't take you to the top. By itself, attitude is unable to resurrect a doomed business plan or make up for a deficiency of knowledge. Attitude can't alter reality or reverse a dire financial situation.

The "attitude is everything" doctrine becomes dangerous when a person lives on hope rather than paying his or her dues for success. The mindset, "Everything will turn out for the best," substitutes for planning and effort. Attitude has undeniable benefit, but it's not a magic ticket that compensates for failure to perform. You cannot disconnect attitude from reality and expect to be successful. Since attitude has too often been presented as a cure-all, in the book The Difference-Maker, Dr. John Maxwell clears away unrealistic impressions of what attitude can accomplish. At the same time, he advocates the sensational upside of a great attitude.

What Your Attitude Cannot Do For You

1. Your Attitude Cannot Substitute for Competence.

In my leadership experience, I have made the mistake of hiring for attitude and discounting ability. I erroneously thought that positive people would eventually find a way to get the job done-even if they didn't have the exact abilities for their role. Unfortunately, there's no substitute for talent. An attitude of confidence cannot replace competence.

2. Your Attitude Cannot Substitute for Experience.

Idealists have intense desire to change the world and often have a courageous attitude to match their ambition. However, without experience an idealist's wave of enthusiasm will crash on the shores of reality. Certain leadership positions-due to their scope of responsibility-demand the kind of wisdom that is earned solely through experience.

3. Your Attitude Cannot Change the Facts.

As John Adams said, "Facts are stubborn things." They may be painful to accept, but they cannot be ignored. Attitude alone cannot reverse financial numbers showing a company on the verge of bankruptcy. The reality for many companies involves difficult decisions like outsourcing or layoffs to cut costs. By itself, attitude cannot stem the tide of an evolving industry. For instance, newspapers must adjust their advertising strategies to confront the fact that consumers are flocking online for news. Without a fundamental shift in their business models, traditional newspapers face extinction-regardless of the attitudes permeating their company cultures.

4. Your Attitude Cannot Substitute for Personal Growth.

Attitude fills us with hope that we might reach our dreams. However, hope divorced from action proves false. In the words of musician, Bruce Springsteen, "A time comes when you need to stop waiting for the man you want to become and start being the man you want to be." Never stop dreaming, but also never cease growing if you expect your dreams to come true.

What Your Attitude Can Do For You

1. Your Attitude Makes a Difference in Your Approach to Life.

Our performance will likely match the expectations we have of ourselves or the expectations we allow others to impose upon us. In fact, it's very difficult to behave in a way that is contrary to self-expectations.

At the professional levels, athletes are encouraged to visualize themselves having a successful performance before competing. Visualization has proved to be a productive technique for enhancing an athlete's play. Likewise, flooding your mind with thoughts of successful leadership can be pivotal in setting healthy self-expectations.

2. Your Attitude Makes a Difference in Your Relationships with People.

Many factors come into play when working with people, but what makes or breaks interpersonal skills is a person's attitude. In my book, Winning with People, I describe twenty-five people principles that anyone can use to become better at building relationships and working with others. Many of those principles are attitude-based. Here are some examples:

o The Lens Principle: Who we are determines how we see others. Our perception of others depends more on our attitude than it does their characteristics. If we are positive, we see them as positive.
o The Pain Principle: Hurting people hurt people and are easily hurt by them. Our negative experiences and emotional baggage color our perception of others' actions. Normal interactions can cause us pain even when another person did nothing to inflict pain.
o The Elevator Principle: We can lift people up or take them down in our relationships. People possess a mindset of either lifting or limiting others.
o The Learning Principle: Each person we meet has the potential to teach us something. People in possession of a teachable attitude can learn from everyone they meet. On the contrary, someone who assumes others have nothing to offer will walk away from relationships empty-handed.

3. Your Attitude Makes a Difference in How You Face Challenges.

Circumstances appear to be instrumental in the creation of great leaders and thinkers, but such is the case only when their attitudes are right. Your attitude is the paint brush of your mind. It colors your world with brilliant optimism or a dark veneer of negativity. Consider these historical examples of leaders whose attitudes carried them beyond circumstances:

o Demosthenes, called the greatest orator of ancient Greece, possessed a speech impediment. He overcame it by reciting verses with pebbles in his mouth and speaking over the roar of the waves at the seashore.
o Composer Ludwig von Beethoven wrote his greatest symphonic masterpieces after he had become deaf.
o John Bunyan wrote Pilgrim's Progress while in prison. Daniel Dafoe also wrote while in prison, producing Robinson Crusoe.
o Franklin Delano Roosevelt is considered by many to be among the best American presidents. Despite his polio handicap, FDR led the nation through the Great Depression and World War II.

For years I have tried to live by the following statement: I cannot always choose what happens to me, but I can always choose what happens in me. My attitude in circumstances beyond my control can be the difference maker. My attitude in the areas that I do control will be the difference maker.

Wednesday, May 07, 2008

Leading Up and Leading Across: Challenges of a 360° Leader

I recently read the book The 360 Degree Leader: Developing Your Influence from Anywhere in the Organization by Dr. John C Maxwell. In this Maxwell asserts that you don’t have to be the main leader to make significant impact in your organization. Good leaders are not only capable of leading their followers but are also adept at leading their superiors and their peers. Debunking myths and shedding light on the challenges, John Maxwell offers specific principles for Leading Down, Leading Up, and Leading Across. 360-Degree Leaders can lead effectively, regardless of their position in an organization. By applying Maxwell's principles, you will expand your influence and ultimately be a more valuable team member.

The Myths of Leading From The Middle

1. The Position Myth – “I can’t lead if I am not at the top.”
2. The Destination Myth – “When I get to the top, then I’ll learn to lead.”
3. The Influence Myth – “If I were on top, then people would automatically follow me.”
4. The Inexperience Myth – “When I get to the top, I’ll be in control.”
5. The Freedom Myth – “When I get to the top, I’ll no longer be limited.”
6. The Potential Myth – “I can’t reach my potential if I’m not the top leader.”
7. The All-or-Nothing Myth – “If I can’t get to the top, then I won’t try to lead.”

Someone who believes the all-or-nothing myth might say, “If I can’t get to the top, then I won’t try to lead.” Some people in the middle become frustrated by their position in an organization because they define success as being “on top.” As a result, they believe that if they are not on top, they are not successful. If that frustration lasts long enough, they can become disillusioned, bitter and cynical. If it gets to that point, instead of being a help to themselves and their organization, they become a hindrance. Improve your leadership and you can impact your organization. You can change people’s lives. You can be someone who adds value. You can learn to influence people at every level of the organization — even if you never get to the top. By helping others, you can help yourself.

How to Lift Your Leader’s Load

1. Be sure to do your own job well before you concentrate on lifting your leader’s load. If you drop your personal responsibilities, you’ll drag your leader down rather than propping them up.
2. When you find a problem, provide a solution. If you only identify what is broken, you look no different than a complainer. Show initiative by repairing the problems you encounter.
3. Tell your leaders what they need to hear, not what they want to hear. In the words of President Dwight Eisenhower: “A bold heart is half the battle.” Have the courage to speak your mind and confront difficult truths.
4. Go the second mile. Be willing to arrive early, stay late, and do more than your share of work.
5. Stand up for your leader whenever you can. Don’t become party to backbiting or criticism. Speak highly of your leaders and diffuse the negativity others may show toward them.
6. Stand in for your leader whenever you can.

In the words of Colin Powell: “When we are debating an issue, loyalty means giving me your honest opinion, whether you think I’ll like it or not. Disagreement, at this stage, stimulates me. But once a decision has been made, the debate ends. From that point on, loyalty means executing the decision as if it were your own.” There will be instances when you do not see eye to eye with your leader’s decision. Respecting their authority by supporting them, even when you disagree, will give them the confidence to trust you.

The Principles 360° Leaders Practice to Lead Across

Leading your peers is no simple task. It’s easy for an effective leader to lead followers, but leading across can be difficult—especially for highly productive people who might create feelings of jealousy or resentment among their peers. Effective 360° leaders give their colleagues reasons to respect and follow them. Because they lead across successfully, they are able to assist the people beside them, profit the organization, and advance themselves.

Understand, Practice and Complete the Leadership Loop

Leading peers is not a one-time event. It’s an ongoing process. When leading across, the temptation is to try to take the lead too quickly. Taking shortcuts or cheating the process will erode your respect from others rather than gaining influence with them.

The Leadership Loop



1. Caring – Take an interest in people. People always move toward anyone who increases them and away from anyone who decreases them.
2. Learning – Get to know people invest the time to understand the values that motivate your fellow leaders.
3. Appreciating – Respect people Find and encourage the strengths unique to each of your colleagues. Assume they have your best interests in mind, and be open to their ideas and concerns.
4. Contributing – Add value to people few activities add to a leader’s credibility like the dedication to add value to the people around them – especially when the leader is neither obligated to add value nor receiving direct benefit from doing it. Adding value to peers lets them know that you are on their side and are cheering for them to win.
5. Verbalizing – Affirm people to affirm signifies to make firm. An affirmation is a statement of truth you make firm by repetition. Affirmations enable others to believe in their dreams. For people to reach their potential, their dreams must become more real than their doubts.
6. Leading – Influence people Understand, enlarge, and empower those who are leading beside you.
7. Succeeding – Win with People When you succeed with people, you gain opportunities to influence even more people. The leadership loop completes a cycle and begins anew. As additional people enter your life, you must again choose to take an interest in them, get to know them, etc

Monday, May 05, 2008

How to add a Command Prompt option to the default Explorer right click context menu?

If you find that you frequently open a Command Prompt window and change to a specific directory, you can add the Command Prompt to your shortcut menu.

Method 1: Microsoft Powertoys
This is the easiest and most idiot-proof method. Use Microsoft Powertoys found HERE. Download the Open Command Window Here file and install it.

Method 2: Manually add the context menu
1. In explorer, open Tools, Folder Options.
2. Select the File Types tab.
3. For Windows XP: Go to NONE / Folder.
4. For Windows 2000: Press n to scroll to the N/A section.
5. For Windows NT/98/95: Press f to scroll to the Folders section.
6. Select the entry labeled Folder
7. For Windows 2000/XP: Press Advanced button.
8. For Windows NT/98/95: Press Edit button.
9. Select New
10. In the action block type "Open Command Window Here" without the quotes.
11. In the app block type "cmd.exe" without the quotes.
12. Save and exit Folder Options.

Now right click on Start, you should have a new drop down option. Open explorer and right click on a folder, select Open Command Window Here and a command window opens in that folder.